I am dealing with a big disappointment and trying to allow the emotion to wash over me and not try to find a way to un-feel my pain.
We have a family wedding in Toronto in July and my elderly mother, myself and my husband will be attending. My sister has made it clear she does not want my Mom or hubby and myself staying with her as she is hosting my brother, his wife and son who are also from out of town. Whenever there is a family function in my part of the country, I open my small home to everyone. Hubby and I have even stayed at a B & B across the street to free up a comfortable bed for her and her husband. She lives in a four bedroom huge home with plenty of room. My mother does not do stairs well and if she stayed there she would take up a couch on the main floor.
My Mom loves my sister and will be hurt if she knows she is not welcome. My mother never sees this out of town son as he lives in Vancouver. If we (or she) does not stay with family we cannot stay longer than one or two nights because of the cost of hotel rooms. There is no where else for Mom to stay with a bathroom on the main level.
Hubby and I DESERVE a break to stay away from Mom for one or two nights. My sister should welcome my Mother. My mom is quiet and actually afraid of this sister of mine so she would be no trouble. She would just be there to enjoy spending time with the out of town family. She would love to be there despite the fact that my sister is a little harsh with her at times.
I accept the fact that I am not welcome; I can crash anywhere. My mother does not deserve this. Although she is an alcoholic and sometimes a little negative, she is no trouble to have around as she talks little, eats little and sleeps a lot.
I sent my sister an email expressing my bafflement and hurt and asked her to give me some time to digest her coldness.
I will not drink.